How should we teach kids about the dangers of sexting?

Two parents in British Columbia have been charged with assault for hitting their 14-year-old daughter after she sent a nude image of herself to her boyfriend. What do you think is the proper way to teach kids about the dangers of sexting?

    welp, ive done stupid things with my nudes despite knowing all the risks and not being a teen, Ive stopped after i realized how stupid that was, so i dont think this is something that you could teach, as supposed to just giving them the knowledge about the dangers and letting them figure the rest out on their own
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    The best way to deal with it--in my opinion--if to teach kids that NOTHING on the internet is private. That nude pic you send today may end up in their parents mailbox tomorrow.

    There is no 'delete'. Once you send that naked pic, that image will be out there for the rest of your life. You can't 'undo' that. At the very least, they should be taught never to have their face in an image, so even if things go bad, only they are the ones who know it was them.
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    The Courts should be ashamed!! Many teenagers watch these cases quite closely actually, I know I did. Soon to be seen on the front page of LatchkeyKid.com. They already have the Young Offender's Act, eh? Let's not give too much ammo to the kids and undermine the Parent's Natural role as a Disciplinarian (especially the Father) In some cases, trying to rationalize with a Hormone crazy teen is nigh on impossible and could take days, weeks, or months, when a good swat on the bum fixes the problem, instantly. Good going Judge, you just set a precedent!

    --Comment written by a well adjusted, respectful, former child who received spankings for sometimes acting utterly foolish and endangering myself and my family's own well being. Nope, NOT traumatized, NOT entitled, and NOT weepy, fragile and unable to cope with life's setbacks.
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    So someone needs to ask the judge what other options the parents could have given if he thinks he's so damn smart .Provide a guideline for others if you dare .
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    The only way to 'teach' kids about sexting, or any other risky behaviour is to engage in ongoing, meaningful discussions. The question is, what should the consequence be if kids still cross the line? Corporal punishment is criminal and also ineffective, because it isn't connected to the offence. It erodes respect for parents and only escalates the problem. So how about taking away the cell phone, or refusing to pay the bills (presuming parents are still doing so for a 14 year old.) If the teen actually owns the phone and does pay the bills, I still think as a minor they should forfeit their phone if they use it to engage in obscene and dangerous behaviour. It's like forfeiting a driver's license for drinking and driving - zero tolerance with a G1. Parents should have this discussion and establish the ground rules before allowing teens to have a cell phone... so there are no surprises if consequences have to be employed. And incidentally, I'd apply this same discipline to the boys who make the requests, as well as the girls who supply the images.
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    I agree with others; teach your kids that NOTHING on the internet is private, and that once it's out there, it can NEVER be completely "deleted". (I have sometimes showed my kids USENET posts I've made from 20+ years ago, showing that they're still out there.) And we've talked about when and where nakedness is appropriate, and how photographs and videos are almost never appropriate places to be naked. We've been very lucky with our children.
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    All we can do is talk to our kids and try to teach them about the possible consequences. Then hope we did a good job in teaching our kids how to think for themselves and think about the consequences before they do something stupid. We did a lot of stupid things when we were growing up and most of us turned out OK. But nowadays, kids do stupid things that have far worse consequences. In the end, we can only hope we did a good job showing our kids how to make good choices because kids are going to do what they do regardless.
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    I think we see this kind of inappropriate actions from parents because system and society put much responsibility on parents but other side of kids possess almost no responsibility.

    Sexting should be a crime and kids should be punish in some form. If parents and kids are aware of the penalty or penalty of sexting then parents and kids will behave in appropriate way.
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    Does anyone think the sentencing of these parents is anything but punitive. I fail to be able to rationalize this conviction and I am a 35 year old male who has a 6 month old son. I do agree the skipping rope was over board. When you move from spanking to whipping the conversation changes, but a legal conviction and sentencing?
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    Being a new dad, I am concerned with societies requirement of me to rationalize with a person who has learned to rationalize. From my experience children are not always rational. Yes we have to teach them how to think rationally but until that is learned I find myself stuck with faulty logic as I am asked to rationalize with an irrational being.
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    I just don't see how this decision or really the whole charging, trial and so forth really helps either the family, the girl, or society generally. Isn't this something that could be handled with some mediation without it going through this mess and leaving two decent well meaning parents with criminal records and a teen with parents crippled with these? Also, did the police and prosecutors go ahead to charge and try the parents without the girl's consent? And, why is it acceptable to "ground" someone (forcible confinement)? Also, why do police get to use brutal corporal punishment like tazers, punching, smashing people off the ground, cuffing, and even shooting with bullets? How is incarceration not "corporal punishment"??? Locking someone up is a terribly cruel thing to do, much more than slapping their butt! Also, the judge believing that modern society is abhorred by such things as spanking is incorrect - that's just the opinion of the elite who bully their ways on the rest of society. Poll after poll has proven this as well as what we anecdotally know from coffee shop discussions and similar. This thing seems to have just gone WAY TOO FAR. The police and courts should look for compassionate and positive ways to help people, not to use a proverbial sledgehammer to overdo it.
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    When you are about to hit your children, do it facing a mirror so you can see what a monster you have become. Then stop yourself and ask, "What the hell is wrong with me?"
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    So to protect the girl, the "justice system" gives the parents a criminal record. The whole family unit, which includes the girl will now suffer financially.

    In addition, any mental and emotional scars suffered by the girl are magnified. Additional emotional scars have also been dealt to the rest of her family.

    Excellent work Canada "justice system". The logic here is impeccable.
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    Part of the problem is people are putting a value on nudity. I don't suggest we do this, but if you think about it, if everyone put nude pictures of themselves on the internet for everyone else to see for free, then the value of nudity is 0. Because we teach kids to value it so much it becomes a weapon for others to use against us. however will protect my privacy as best I can and not take nude pictures of myself.
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    There is no "proper way" too teach the dangers of such an action. It is the same difference from my era of kiss and tell but with a much larger audience. A good parent tells their child of these possibilities as they know it and, keeps an open dialogue with there children without judgement. The biggest thing parents must drill in to their children(s) head is that the digital world is vast and, unlike our world it cant just be deleted easily.
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    Engage in meaningful conversation and make young people understand the meaning of what they do and the consequences of what happens when they do such a thing!
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    Nudity is not considered bad in society we live in so how we can convince our kids sexting is bad thing?
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    This is definitely a problem, but I do not think it is appropriate to spank a 14 year old girl, or any 14 year old for that matter.
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    Stock photo.
    The person in the photo, whoever she is, easily identified by tattoo...Laurence Gough at 4:37 PM

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    As important as it is to speak with young girls about this, it is equally and possibly even more important to speak with young boys.
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    Here is the rub young ladies. Everything you do that can be recorded or snapped, can be used to hurt you and your aspirations. The digital age is merciless. My era were a kiss and tell that would be forgotten is long gone. The digital era is in fact almost ubiquitous. Choose wisely and if in doubt consult those that are older then you even if you might not like the statement.
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    Grounding my child will not work as he never leaves his room. Since we are unable to discipline our kids, they can do what ever they want. New criminals on the rise.
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    That they will go blind.....
    Actually, you cannot "monitor" a child 24/7. So the best recourse is to have a frank, explicit conversation with the kid and explain the consequences of doing ANYTHING on the internet.
    The repercussions are great and forever. If the child refuses to behave or listen, having examples of tragic outcome to others doing the same thing would be my next step. If nothing convinces the kid to stop, professional help (for all) would be appropriate. There could be many reasons for the behavior and looking in the mirror could be one!
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    The judges point to this was not the fact that the father "disciplined her" hell he gave her a choice which, btw in my times there was no choice you took your lickings for your crimes. The problem was that the mother sallied forth adding even more punishment. That passes corporal punishment at this point and the father had an obligation to stop her,
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    There should be a less draconian way of dealing with cases like this. Certainly if the girl ends up in provincial child care she has a good chance of much worse abuse and when that happens the principal of the school, the Judge, the prosecutor will not be there to pick up the pieces. Courts should be very very careful about breaking down families.
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    Hi, Kenny Stevens. I'm not sure I understand what you mean. Care to elaborate?
    This live chat sure works well when you have to check up on every comment. Seems like a waste to meKenny Stevensat 5:02 PM

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    Seems to me like a firm handling of ANY bad behavior is the way to put it to an end. No good behavior? No cell phone, that's what I say
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    I don't use corporal punishment on my kids, BUT

    The daughter found corporal punishment less painful than extensive grounding. So the judge deems the lesser of two punishments to be worse than the greater, more severe punishment. That's not exactly illogical, but it is a bit hard to get my head around it
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    I'm seriously wondering how TAKE AWAY PHONE was not an option in the discipline process. She's 14. Get her a flip phone for 2 months so she realizes phones for kids her age are not for textual intercourse! Having to use T9 texting again is discipline on its own :P
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    If this punishment is a regular occurrence - then it's wrong and loses all meaning. But if prevents the child from exposing herself to a life time of pain and regret over her bad decisions - then it was wise. Sometimes how the child transforms his/herself into an adult is the only way to judge the merits of the punishment.
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    Fifteen more minutes for this CBC Forum. If you've only been reading, now's your last chance.

    Lots of comments lately about the case itself, so let's re-ask the original question: What is the best way to teach kids about the dangers of sexting?
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    Where as I do not agree with corporal punishment in any shape or form. I do not believe hitting your kid will change the habit but open and franc discussion would do a lot more good. Parents need to wake up and start talking to your kids about these things, sex, drugs, sexting, drinking and you need to do this BEFORE they become teens, not during teen years. Teens generally, if you have not opened the discussion before hand, will just ignore you. If this was my daughter I would have sat her down and explain why and what was wrong with what she did and then TAKE HER DATA AWAY
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    Agreed. Education about this with your children starts long before they even get the phone etc. Doing your utmost to raise a confidant child, who doesn't feel the need for approval and (the wrong kind of) attention from someone else is the best thing you can do. And when all else fails, take the technology away until they know how to use it responsibly.
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